Irrational self

Just a thought - why is it so difficult to let your rational self overpower ur irrational self sometimes? Especially when the path is towards accepting the harsh reality of a guy's action and moving on, the path appears more thorny! Jealousy and envy are undesirable qualities, but they are part of the whole package of a person - just hiding away in an unstimulated corner because the sensible attributes are not uninhibited.

I guess acknowledging it is a step closer to empowering your rational self!

Oh my God, this post is bringing out the girl in me :P So rare, but I guess it's there! haha

Dissociation

Here, I describe briefly another concept that I have recently found fascinating. Why is it that some people act on their impulses without insight and judgment? Is the mind really so powerful that it can override our own lucid self? Of course it is. We can act on fanatical burning impulses even if there is an internal conflict rendering us to struggle with justifying our actions. This can be thought of as a state of dissociation from our own ‘self’. There is a part of us that doesn’t want to act this way, but another part which is fueling the impulsion overpowers and makes it happen. This need not be something as dramatic as suicidal or homicidal encounters. Little things like a diabetic indulging in chocolate to a point where his or her sugar levels surge beyond the controllable range or a man walking on the road hitting a kid just for the fun of it. Whatever the impulsive action, it can possibly happen. In most people, rational thinking prevails and they can stop such disruptive behaviour because these two conflicting minds that we have, integrate over the years in a positive social context to give you the ability to reason and justify your actions. When this ability is lost or has not developed over the years as a result of socially inappropriate encounters, vulnerability to these two disintegrated battling minds (dissociative in nature) increases. Because you are in a dissociated state when you act in a certain way, you may not remember it or even approve of that action immediately after. This is just one of the ways that impulsive and brash behaviour can be studied. In fact, this can be linked to any behaviour that you may contend with. Interesting really!!!

Mind - you strong and powerful weapon!

A state of mental well-being is sought after as an ultimate goal of life by almost anyone from an ordinary working man to an educated Vedantist concerned with the nature of reality and self-realisation. What is it about the mind that influences our actions, thoughts, feelings and behaviour? Why isn’t everyone born with an inherent ability to control their reactions and responses to certain stimuli, whether external or internal? Why is it such a relentless struggle to have peace of mind? I believe that only our ‘peaceful mind’ can assist someone else who is seeking help. If we are agitated and internally conflicted, it hardly makes sense to try and calm others down. The strength of an individual’s mind is a product of their upbringing and continues to be shaped by experiences throughout their life-span, more so in childhood than adulthood.

It’s a recurrent theme that a traumatic childhood leaves residual gaps in one’s personality, which don’t get filled as the children grow up. An ordinary 6 year old has no propensity for dishing out right from wrong or wanted from unwanted. There is no way for this kid to only take into account that which benefits his or her affirmative character development. They believe what they are told and don’t question. For example, a child who has been told that they should’ve never been born and should’ve been aborted, may keep thinking of his or her place in the world as unwanted and lose that sense of belonging. This sense of belonging is crucial for our mere existence in a social setting. That 6-year-old has no idea whether he or she was told that as a consequential outburst of mother’s frustration and has no innate ability or power to question it and say “wait a minute, why do you say that? I am as normal as the kid down the street and deserve to live as much as he does. What is the reason behind your statement?”

When similar experiences have tainted a naive and unknowing child and made him or her shy or self-contemptuous or anything else unsolicited, I have a possible solution. Continuing on with this particular example... Someone who has lost their sense of belonging in this world won’t bother living for the sake of anyone and cannot appreciate their strengths to aid them to thrive in as deserving a life as any other. This is when it is safe to separate that little girl or boy in you who keeps instilling derogatory remarks such as you are not worth it and you are better off dead. You have to disconnect yourself from that little girl or boy in you who has suffered a shattering childhood and escape into a safer world where you wish to belong. When the damage is made, it is hard to amend sometimes. Recognizing and validating your situation is a constructive first step. Slowly changing that scarred thinking is the path to triumph over some deadlock situations that some people find themselves in. So, mothers or potential mothers out there, be careful about what you subject your kids to, because their childhood plays an incredible role in making them resilient to stress and having a good sense of self.

Anyway, the question still remains – what is it about the mind that influences our actions, thoughts, feelings and behaviour? This cannot be answered linearly, but introspection or extro-spection (i.e. talking out loud on a paper or to an honest trustworthy friend) compounded by open-mindedness can lead you, at least in part, to a peaceful mind which will prime you for a challenging future. Good luck with the ongoing tussle of your mind everyone!

Colourful

Just a fleeting thought that I decided to post. There is a word in my thoughts at the moment - colourful. Imagine that word and write the first two things that pop up. Do this activity yourself and then compare with mine. If you can be bothered that is :)or else just read ahead.

Imagination imitates what's on your mind and so the first thing I had to do was purge myself - let every other thought go; sequester the other thoughts amongst myriad neurons in a corner of the firing lightning that we call the brain.

I will key in at least a part of the transient picture in my mind when it's dwelling on the word 'colourful'.
1) Rainbow, peacocks, parrots, rainbow lorikeets, flowers, scenic reserves, sunset surrounded by the forest, lake and huts - why is it that nature always takes the top spot when we are thinking of beautiful, colourful, serene? I'd like to think of nature as a unlimited broadcasting station: if we tune in, the peace and purity of its existence always flows through.
2) Indian festivals and weddings - A traditional Indian wedding doesn't just involve two people marrying, it's the marrying of two families in an eternal bond. More than a week of festivities along with mehendi,frantic singing, dancing, gauri poojas and various other bodily, musical and procedural ornamentations as part of the process. If you wish to witness the explosion of a plethora of colours, walk hand in hand with the joy and love...you have to be closely involved in the celebrations!

Mind can't stay focused on one thing for long and I am sure we'd all vouch for that. So, let the thoughts, imagination and creativity race ahead and enjoy the beautiful and colourful days ahead :)