Tagged: Gender bender

Sriram has tagged me. The tag asks me to list "my sins against gender stereotypes". This is exciting because I never considered myself a ‘girl’. Here I go:
1. I own only two dresses – one was $5 from farmers and the other was a gift. I can’t remember the last time I went shopping for clothes or shoes or anything... Shopping puts me off! I’ve been postponing my dressmart shopping day for more than a year now... I would rather go on adventure tours!!!
2. I was so obsessed about cleanliness that I couldn’t study or do anything until I see everything in its place. This is what a typical girl more or less usually does...but now - I’ve become so messy after my bro left to India. I’ve inherited his clutter and shambles. There isn’t a day when amma doesn’t scold me about it
3. When I eat, I eat wholeheartedly – who cares about the million calories in the cream cheese cake or khaju katli :P I am the rubbish bin of our kitchen...Jai ho to the dangers of being able to eat anything without being fussed!
4. Gossip is a big no no for me. I always half hear it and never pass it on. I like talking about something besides other people’s lives and relationships. I believe its soo hard to socialise with other girls sometimes for that very reason!! Grrr.. ;)
5. I have never put on makeup willingly – the only time I did eye makeup was for a production when I was uncle max in Sound of music
6. Most of the time, I don’t get excited about wearing dresses, looking pretty, making an effort, going out into town and socialising. Things that get me excited are badminton, cicket, singing, going up mountains, snow, jumping around with my friend and her danceable music, eating and for those who know me – sleeping in lecs...
7. From the very start, I had more guy friends than girl friends. I loved climbing trees, playing street cricket with my bro's friends, going to play pool, riding motor bikes, and oh....I used to wear my bro's jeans when he grew out of them. lol. I don't think I know any girl who wore guy's jeans...now that I think of it, they were so uncomfortable. hehe

Thanks Sri, it was enlivening to remind myself of the guy in me. :)

Birthday wishes

Some things are left undone,
Some words are left unsaid,
Some feelings are left unexpressed,
But someone as nice as you,
could never be left unwished :)

It was very nice for 'someone' to write the above words and it certainly made me work my cheek muscles. In reply, I say:

Someone as nice as you also could also never be left unwished...so "same to you". I want to wish you a good day everyday. It's what we make of the day that counts...happiness can never be a continuous long lasting state of mind. Take life as it comes, enjoy the elated times, suffer the sad times. Once acquired, never lose the skill to feel every emotion but at the same time strive to bend ur beautiful mind towards neutrality :)

Word of the day from me: neutral

Choices - now or never!

Choices are everywhere, at every stage of our life. They can go horribly wrong or amazingly right!

In any situation, whenever we have various choices to opt from, it’s hard to make the call. I have always despised making decisions. I am the most indecisive person you will ever find. It’s not because I have a wavering mind, rather it’s to do with having a mind which wishes to satisfy everyone, which I may add is certainly next to impossible. So many people advice me about how I should do what I think is right and what my heart/mind wishes to do as opposed to obeying others’ decisions. The problem with this is that I wish to do whatever turns out to be amazingly right, like everyone else. But how can anyone decide which is the right decision and which is not?! You can never tell unless the consequences are obvious even before one acts and this is never the case.

I believe you are ok to accept and follow others’ decisions when you are ready to take on the responsibility for those actions. They’ve made a decision for you to act but it’s in your hands whether you’ll execute it or not. Never blame anyone for what has gone wrong with your life. Learn from it and move on…Also learn from the right things which have happened in your life. Because, at the end of the day, what are you left with? Incidents in life which make you more experienced. Only when you’ve survived the consequences of a choice can you emerge with a strong transformed mind.
I have forever relied on others to make the choices for me. What is the reason behind my firm indecisions? I can never understand that part of myself. Even thinking about this has left me undecided as to what I should do about it! At this point, only one thing strikes my mind – I have a long way to go in life, to take it easy and to feel like I know that this is precisely what I want!

However, I realise that I have to start somewhere, start now. I have to embrace the choices, list out the pros and cons and emerge out of the ocean of options, having picked the one I want and the one I am ready to face the consequences of! Otherwise, how else will this small brain able to take big decisions? Now or never!